Friday, January 24, 2014

Perfect Timing

When God has a plan for your family, it’s a perfect plan, regardless of the process. A good friend once told me “you don’t just get a phone call offering you a baby”.  To which I responded, “That’s not entirely true”. 

When my husband and I got the call about our daughter (we'll call her C), it was 10:00 at night and he was driving home from a two-week stint on the rig.  Our friend's mother (we'll call her T) met a young girl looking to put her unborn baby up for adoption.  She had been to an agency that morning, but didn’t feel like that was the right place for her baby.   She wanted to “know” the family first.  T knew that adoption was what we wanted for our family, however, something was holding us off from going to the agency.  After describing us to the young mother, T called and asked if my husband and I were ready for a baby and I of course told her YES!! I called my husband and he was excited about he possibility of our family finally being complete.  A few phone calls later, we met the birth mother at a local restaurant.  Since we were not going through an agency there was a lot more open contact, allowing us to get to know each other.  By the end of lunch, everyone knew that this baby was meant to be in our family, and the process began.

We contacted a family/adoption attorney in our area that afternoon, and met with her the following Monday.  She walked us through the paperwork and got us in contact with someone who performed home studies.  Since this adoption was private, and amazingly unexpected, we had not done any of the typical pre-adoption papers.  Throughout the entire process, we were in contact with our daughter’s birth mother regarding any questions or concerns that may have come up.  Having an open adoption made so many aspects of the adoption process much easier since we could just ask each other whatever we needed.  We also were blessed with being allowed in every one of her doctors appointments, including finding out the sex of the baby and being in the delivery room…I even cut her umbilical cord. 

Once C was born, we continued to have contact with her birth mother.  In the first year, we saw her four times (more than was expected, but I think it helped her with the healing process).  During her second year, we saw her twice, and now we are down to once a year.   There are some difficulties having an open adoption, but for the most part, it seems to be the best option for our family. 

There is no doubt in any of our minds that God had an amazing plan for our family.  It all happened because T was at her sisters one random night, and her sister had a visitor she babysat 15 years ago there with his pregnant girlfriend.  C is the perfect addition to our family.  She is full of life, love, and energy!  We thank God every night for her, and His wonderfully perfect plan for our lives!

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