Becoming a mother has always been a terrifying thing to me.
Being responsible for the health and well-being of my own self was scary
enough, let alone doing that for another human being. I was constantly
questioning whether or not I had what it took to raise a child. I was afraid of
not being nice enough, not being patient enough, not being kind enough, and, to
be honest, I just really love to sleep in and take long showers. I’ve seen
enough mommy blogs to know those would both be out the window come parenthood.
Last year, I even made a list of 30 things I wanted to accomplish before I
turned 30. Number 7 said this: “Start to think about maybe possibly becoming a
mom. Someday. In the future.” To say that having the title “mother” freaked me
out was an understatement.
Last Spring, God began to change my heart. I started seeing
motherhood in a new light. It suddenly became less about what I would have to
give up and more about what I would gain. The thought of raising a child seemed
less like a burden and more like a privilege. I can’t put my finger on what
caused these thoughts, but I’m confident that God was preparing my heart for a
journey that I never expected.
Isaac and I began talking about starting a family. We talked
about timeframe, finances, and every possible logistic that a child would
affect. What can I say? I’m a planner. As we began talking about having a
biological baby, there was a disconnect. We felt God saying, “It’s time to
become parents, but it’s not time to have a baby.” Awesome. Thanks for the
extremely clear and easy to understand answer, God. Much appreciated.
In April, we traveled to Haiti to check out a potential
missions partner and everything began to make sense. The parent-like hearts God
was beginning to form inside of us went into overdrive and we couldn’t imagine
not making adoption the basis of our family. We knew God was leading us to
adopt from the Caribbean so we began the process.
We’ve experienced incredibly joyous highs and gut-wrenching
lows, but God remains faithful in his promise to complete what he begins. We’ve
had the door shut in our faces with no idea of what to do next, and we’ve had
doors we didn’t even know existed flung wide open for us. We’ve stressed and
doubted we would ever come up with enough money to make this thing happen, and
we’ve had anonymous checks handed to us for the perfect amount needed. God does
not call us to missions that he has not already fulfilled, and for this truth I
could not be more grateful.
Maggie is on staff as
the Community Impact Minister at Christ’s Church of Oronogo. She and her
husband, Isaac, are in the process of adopting their first child from St.
Vincent and the Grenadines. At the
Joy in the Journey Retreat, she will be leading the breakout session entitled,
“Orphan Care Ministries.”
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