In
2001 as I was getting ready for work, I was listening to a Focus on the
Family broadcast about adoption. Steven Curtis Chapman was describing
their first (and only at the time) adoption from China. Have you ever
tried to put on makeup and cry at the same time? It doesn't really
work, but as I listened to Steven Curtis Chapman share his heart for and
experience with adoption, I was deeply moved. I knew in that moment
that we would adopt someday. My husband was on board with it from the
beginning, coming from a family with 5 siblings adopted out of the
foster care system.
At
that point we had been married for a year and weren't ready to start a
family. When we decided we were ready to grow our family, we tried and
failed to get pregnant for years--8 of them to be exact.
We knew we wanted to adopt
someday, so while we were trying to get pregnant, we decided to also
research adoption and try to find the best option for our family. The
research phase that we thought would take months, turned into years. We
were quickly discouraged by the financial cost of adoption. My husband
is a worship minister and I had just graduated with my masters in
counseling and had all the student loan debt to go along with it.
Needless to say, like most families, we didn't have an extra $30,000
laying around to finance our adoption. I kept requesting information
packets from an agency, seeing the cost and sending for the next packet
from the next agency. This process repeated over and over again. But
my faith was about to be stretched in a big way!
A
friend of a friend introduced us to an orphanage where the missionaries
love to work with ministry families. It was the extra push we needed
to start the process. We began the amazing journey of adoption without
knowing where the funds were going to come from. BUT we knew God was
leading us each step of the way and we just had to follow Him. We began
the process and completed our home study.
During
the home study process a precious family at our church handed us a
check for $1,000 to help with our adoption expenses. Shortly after
this, two sweet friends at church approached me to ask how they could
help us raise the funds for adoption. We began planning a fundraising
event. The event included a silent auction and a cookie exchange to be
held on December 6th. My friends went to area businesses and called
people in the church and community to make donations of items to be
auctioned. People were really creative and donated things like a day
out on their boat, or a laser cut sign for a favorite sports team. God
greatly blessed this event. On December 7th, someone anonymously gave an
additional gift through our church. I want to make sure you notice the
dates here. On December 6th and 7th we raised the exact amount that we
would need for the remainder of our adoption expenses. Our son,
Nathanael was born on December 8th and we were matched with him 16 days
later!
If
we had not obeyed God and taken the leap of faith to adopt, we would
never have been able to see how God would faithfully provide and we
would not have known the amazing joy of becoming parents.
If you feel God
nudging you to adopt but the cost scares you, you can trust Him, He
will provide! No number we can read on paper is greater than his
ability to provide over and above what you need. We even had people
handing us cash for spending money the day we were to fly out. We
certainly didn't need that, yet God provided it. Those gifts enabled us
to buy a gift for our son from his birth country for each gotcha day
until he turns 18. What a blessing above and beyond what we could ask
or think!
"But
happy are those who have the God of Israel as their helper, whose hope
is in the Lord their God. He is the one who made heaven and earth, the
sea and everything in them. He is the one who keeps every promise forever,"
Psalm 146:5-6
Such a great testament. Thanks for sharing. My husband and I beginning the journey of fostering to adopt. The financial fear is there with us too but I am already seeing God at work! He is soooo awesome that way.
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I completely agree. I loved sharing here about God's faithfulness with our first adoption. It encourages my heart as we are in the process of our second adoption. The cost is much more this time, but God is faithful and I know He will provide again!
ReplyDeleteI loved reading your story, Heather!
ReplyDeleteThanks, April! God is good!
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